Counter Poll So we had the question about how did you know an ex was nuts... Lets go positive this time. What comment / statement did your gf (or missed ex) make that made you know you wanted to be with them?

It wasn't what she said, it's what she didn't say. For the first six months I knew her, I didn't even once hear her being an asshole. She had a kind of grace and kindness/ self posession. She doesn't think she's graceful, she trips over stuff and accidentally breaks small household items, but emotionally she is, very.

I would like to re-submit my "buckets of chicken" entry. She shocked me speechless with that comment, and my first response was "She is nuts!" and my second was "She's a keeper!" It was a bit of a breakthrough moment in the relationship for me, and I still smile when I think about it.

Laughter also opened the door for me.

It was as much the way she listened as what she said. And as much the way she spoke as the words she uttered.

Newts, you are a romantic.

aww, good poll She said she wouldn't let me stay shy for long and that she wanted to know all about me.(whoo boy, did the flood gates open......)

for me? We were having a conversation and she said something that made me have a light bulb moment, of "ooh! She understands me!". We just connect. I like that.

I knew we were compatible with the way we interacted with a waitress in a restaurant. The waitress was ready to pull up a chair to join us(I'm exagerating a bit).You can tell alot about a person from the way they interact with waiters/waitresses, car rental people, sales clerks. But the keeper part is just out of the blue how she will say "baby, I love you!" and every time I know it's not just words.

She thought I was hilarious! How could you not love that? Heh. No but seriously, it was almost the opposite of that, I think it was one day when we talked about death, and about being there when a loved one died. She didn't try to change the subject, she didn't think it was weird or morbid to talk about, she wasn't uncomfortable. She was really *there*, and I could see how compassionate she is. And she is, indeed, a very good egg.

where to start? Similar to what someone posted above....she just has a kindness about her. If she has a mean side, I've certainly never seen it. She's just very gentle and calm, which is good for me - I tend to turn into a total spaz now and then and she brings me back to reality!

she didn't talk much in the beginning What amazed me, though, was that I couldn't find anyone who had a bad word to say about her. She was the person all her friends ed at three in the morning for flat tires or car accidents or a mouse under the bed. She was rock steady no matter what the circumstance. This was so appealing for someone like me--constantly running at the mouth, losing my composure, panicking at any hint of conflict.

ummm... The start of a beautiful Boston marriage which continues to this day. The indigent love our recyclables.

Old Pair of Jeans When we started dating, my gf used to say she thought we fit each other like an old pair of jeans. We have been together for x years and despite the great differences in our personalities, I know exactly what she meant.

This one made me think a bit. We were friends first. She was a late addition that school year and when I saw her I knew I had to talk to her. Sitting in my room one day, listening to music, chatting, she looked at me and said " When I was checkin out the school, your class was the first one I looked in on and the moment I saw you I laid claim. I pointed you out to my mom and said, she's gonna be mine." Then she proceeded to tell me what I had on that day, what color my nails were painted, the color of my eye shadow even. I thought to myself, damn, I kind of laid claim upon first glance as well, and I can still re exactly what she had on. No connection has ever compared.