An introduction... Hello!! I've been meaning to come on here and explore for a while, and am just getting to it today. I hope everyone is enjoying their now gloomy Saturday, and I look forward to meeting lots of people :) Ciao!

welcome Ask anything "but animals,or " in the fo

Oh no worries... Those two things do not fall into my kinks :) I'm just excited to see who this forum turns up. I've been in the lifestyle for a few years now, and am always interested in meeting and talking with new people.

well maybe sassy is looking to get punished tonight and wants the dom to "catch" her

Haha....if only Love the man i'm married to dearly, but when I brought up introducing BDSM into our life style, he just kept asking me if i'd be naughty today. *Sighs.* I've tried to explain what a true D/s relationship can be like, all the way from the kinky sex, down to the commitment and dedication of a collar, but alas. He just wants to know if i've been naughty, at which point I promptly start cracking up from seeing my very vanilla husband roleplay.

Hi and welcome to kinkfo I've not been on in a while, but from what I can remember.. weekends are pretty slow in here (compared to work hours through the week). What brings you here?

Just looking for new friends Been in the lifestyle for a few years now, and yet find myself married to a very vanilla man. :(

well, maybe you can take him to the toppings aisle and put some sprinkles in that 'nilla ice cream. Have you talked with him about any of your fantasies? Are you just assumming he wouldn't be into anything that you might enjoy trying or do you just think that?

The problem is... When I tried to explain my fantasies to him, he said he thought I should go "talk to a professional." because "obviously something had happened to me as a kid that made me want things I shouldn't." He didn't mean to be harsh, but he was genuinely worried about me. He is also super religious, and would not be so happy with me, talking to a bunch of other people about sex.

I was miserable with trying to first change myself and then change my partner for x years. I put myself out there after my break up and found someone who I have a freaky level of compatibility with. Perhaps you both should try some sort of couple's therapy, or you could start out with simple and small things. He may have freaked at the idea of hurting you. Some men are crazy like that. :P There is a difference between hurt and injure.. and without knowing what BDSM is about... it's easy to have misconceptions. Would he be willing to pull your hair a little during sex? You could explain that the added sensations enhance how wonderful he feels.. and that you trust that he wouldn't hurt you, and that's what you like about it... or somethin' like that.

bring your man in here this forum will turn any vanilla into FUNfetti!

maybe you should take your husband to events let him actually see/feel/hear/ be enveloped by the life style. shock him into reality show him what you like by letting him experience how others have it and enjoy it. if nothing else it could be some fun for you.

I fear he'd leave me If I tried to bring him to an event. :( It's been a rough x years of marriage. Married way too young, way too soon, to a man I love, but have no sexual desire for anymore.

hard nut to crack... it seems to me that if you love him, and he loves you. talking about it is a good first step. showing him would be step x. if hes uncomfortable, give it some time and slowly introduce it to your sex life if you havent already

maybe you already have your answer not to sound harsh but i dont see how a relationship can last even with love is there is no sexual attraction just like one can not last with just sexual attraction and no love. love and marriage are more complex then chemestry because there is no guidlines of what to and not to mix but there is always a perfect combination of substances

Not play events -- take him to a clothed workshop or something. They're pretty matter-of-fact, not scary.

good evening Sassie - and the same to the rest.

I saw your pics in the wankfo They were really nice I liked them a lot. You have a very nice body.

Hello, hon! Welcome. Sometimes you have to wade through the spam and mpted pick ups, but this is a totally great place. I've gotten great info and feedback here. Got any kinks to share?

Hi, welcome!