First post But a topic I have thought a lot about recently. I have noticed that several in the forum mention rape fantasy as one of their kinks. I can see the enjoyment/rush you would get from this. Someone close to my family was raped this past weekend. I know some have mentioned that they were raped/molested before in their life. I was wondering if anyone had any insight into this. Those who have the fantasy of a rape, would an actual rape turn your on? Or is it simply just the thought of being taken advantage of, but while still being in a controlled environment? Were you raped in your past, and now still have those fantasies? If yo were raped are their any lingering effects on your sex life? I know this can be kind of a touchy subject, but any thoughts would help. I have lots of questions

I actually did a little time for assault on a man who who raped a woman I knew, and I don't regret it one bit. That being said, I have no problem with strong physical sex with a partner who enjoys being dominated.

That piece of shit is lucky it wasnt me and we werent in VA...I would have killed him.

damn near did.

That's part of my problem Trying to figure out some answers. If I knew who it was, I'd beat the coward half to death.

i love guys like you. one of my best friends is a detective now but he was a cop for x years. well, one time we got into past issues and i told him about mine. he was shocked that he never knew ( we went to school together) and was so pissed. he asked me if i had done anything about it and i said no, mainly because i was so scared and ashamed of things. he told me that x% of all truly raped victims don't ever press charges because they actually end up being "Raped" again in court and under the scrutiny of so many. nothing was ever done about him. oh.. my bad. the church made him stand up in front of the congregation and apologize for a transgression and that if the church body would forgive him he was allowed to stay. he did that and of course they forgave him. i left.

The church forgiving him is one thing but you still are accountable for your actions and somone should have pressed charges on him.

Or at least shot him....I know for a FACT that my church, while forgiving him, would have made sure he was put behind bars

i agree. it was handled awfully.

i was raped... when i was x, in a church, by a guy who attended there. talk about seriously fucked up. anyway, i've been through therapy and counseling and healing and anything else i can think of to escape. there was a time where i even dabbled pretty heavily (but short lived) in drugs, prostitution (very mild compared to other things), and other no-so-healthy lifestyle activities. thankfully, i'm way past that now and owe it all to my son (but that is another story). at any rate, i have a huge rape fantasy. most of it being because it would be a very safe, secure, trusting environment in which i would be able to relive, reprocess, and release. it will be a very healing scene for me, whenever it will happen. but oh yes, it will happen.

hmmm

sorry to hear that but you make a very interesting and valid point at the end and although it is a rape fantasy you still control it by allowing it to start and asking for it.

Thanks bratty! Your situation kind of sounds similair to this one. The girl was actually pretty young, definatley not old enough to have been able to stop it. I worry about how she will be now, as she has had depression problems before this. By the way...you are beautiful! Love the pics.

thank you so much :) make sure she gets into therapy. i've been going since i was x. i think i would have ended up in some mental facility or worse had i not gotten help right away. because before that happened i was sexually abused by my grandfather for a long, long time. x devastating, fucked up, circumstances when you are just beginning your life can take a serious toll.

please do. i always like to help, if i can. :)